Many years ago I read the Five Love Languages book by Gary Chapman, and it transformed my life. (https://www.5lovelanguages.com/)
It not only helped me in my personal relationships, but it also helped me in my business relationships. Learning about how others show “love” and how they interact between each other was paramount to finding success in the relationships that I was involved in. Being able to identify how a person shows love and also receives love was a game changer.
Per the book, the five long languages are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. And it states that you can have primary and secondary languages, and the way that you receive love can be different than how you give/show love.
I receive love for sure by words of affirmation. I need to hear that I am loved and that I am doing a good job. Over the last few years I have done a better job learning how to affirm myself, but I still like to hear that I am succeeding at what I am doing. I also receive love through the receipt of gifts. I love to receive gifts. It makes me feel like someone was thinking of me and spent their hard earned money on something for me. Followed by quality time. The world has us so wrapped up in so many things, that at the end of the day we tend to not have a lot of time left, and I find that when I don’t get enough time from the people that I love, I get fussy.
The way I show love is through giving of gifts for sure. I love to shower people with gifts whether they are store bought gifts or home made gifts. I enjoy baking and crafting. And it is not uncommon for me to spoil my close friends with the bounties of my harvest, especially cupcakes. Cupcakes make people smile and I love to handover a small box of assorted cupcakes and watch people’s faces light it. It brings such warmth to my heart and soul. The other gift I use to show my love is through acts of service, which I feel works hand in hand with receiving/giving of gifts. I will go out of my way to help others as a way of showing my love for them or the cause that I am supporting, because that is what I do.
Today I am feeling quite fulfilled. I know that my love tank is full. I have recently been given a plethora of affirmations from those that I love and respect. I have also received a gift or two as result of hard work. Over the last month, I have been able to spend an enormous amount of quality time with my family and time with my close friends. Currently, life is very much so in balance.
I have such love in my heart at this time. I have love for others and for the first time in a very long time, I have love for myself. I have a mental illness and I have some other chronic illnesses, but I know that I was created in the image of a greater and higher power and I am perfectly imperfect just the way I am, flaws and all. And for this, I am incredibly grateful.